Thursday, January 21, 2010

看父母就是看自己的未來

如果你在一個平凡的家庭長大

如果你的父母還健在

不管你有沒有和他們同住

如果有一天,你發現媽媽的廚房不再像以前那麼乾淨

如果有一天,你發現家中的碗筷好像沒洗乾淨

如果有一天,你發現母親的鍋子不再雪亮

如果有一天,你發現父親的花草樹木已漸荒廢

如果有一天,你發現家中的地板衣櫃經常沾滿灰塵

如果有一天,你發現 母親煮的菜太鹹太難吃

如果有一天,你發現父母經常忘記關瓦斯

如果有一天,你發現老父老母的一些習慣不再是習慣時,
就像他們不再想要天天洗澡時...

如果有一天,你發現父母不再愛吃青脆的蔬果

如果有一天,你發現父母愛吃煮得爛爛的菜

如果有一天,你發現父母喜歡吃稀飯

如果有一天,你發現他們過馬路行動反應都慢了

如果有一天,你發現在吃飯時間他們老是咳個不停

千萬別誤以為他們感冒或著涼,( 那是吞嚥神經老化的現象)


如果有一天,你發覺他們不再愛出門 …

如果有這麼一天

我要告訴你,你要警覺父母真的已經老了

器官已經退化到需要別人照料了

如果你不能照料,請你替他們找人照料

並請你請你千萬千萬要常常探望

不要讓他們覺得被遺棄了


每個人都會老

父母比我們先老

我們要用角色互換的心情去照料他

才會有耐心、才不會有怨言

當父母不能料理自己的時候,為人子女要警覺,

他們可能會大小便失禁、可能會很多事都做不好,


如果房間有異味,可能他們自己也聞不到,

請不要嫌他髒或嫌他臭,為人子女的只能幫他清理,

並請維持他們的『自尊心』。


當他們不再愛洗澡時,

請抽空定期幫他們洗身體,

因為縱使他們自己洗也可能洗不乾淨。

當我們在享受食物的時候,

請替他們準備一份大小適當、容易咀嚼的一小碗,

因為他們不愛吃可能是牙齒咬不動了。


從我們出生開始,

餵奶換尿布、生病的不眠不休照料、

教我們生活基本能力、供給讀書、吃喝玩樂和補習,

關心和行動永遠都不停歇。

如果有一天,

他們真的動不了了,

角色互換不也是應該的嗎?

為人子女者要切記,

看父母就是看自己的未來,

孝順要及時。

如果有一天,

你像他們一樣老時,你希望怎麼過?

現在的你,

是在當單身寄生蟲、還是已婚雙料或多料寄生蟲?

你留意過自己的父母嗎?

樹欲靜而風不止、子欲養而親不在

您的父母還有多少時間等您?
 
 
当我在我的mail box读完这封由我朋友forward给我的这一篇短文时(因该是短文吧),我不禁的留下我的男儿泪。。。 因为我被这篇文章给感动了!它唤醒了我的疏忽和我平时忽略留意的事情。。。它提醒了我时间是一直在流失,人一天一天的在变老。 我们因该多关心和留意我们的家人,要孝顺他们。不管我们是在外工作或读书,我们都因该时不时拨个电话给我们的父母,问候他们,别让他们担心我们。。。
 
以前我在中学时代都很少会和我的父母交谈,甚至不会去关心父母親。 直到当我升上大学时,我才发现没有父母亲在身边, 是多么的不习惯。可是我们是要学习独立,时间久了,慢慢就开始习惯了。直到我收到这篇文章,才发觉原来平时我们忽略去关心的事情,会有这样多的变化。
 
从那刻开始,每当我放假回去时,都会特别的留意父母亲的一举一动,看看他们的白头发和皱纹有没有长多了。。。有时我还会和我妈分享在大学的生活,然后她也会告诉我家里发生的趣事。偶尔隔几天过后她会重复和我说同一样的事情,可是我会耐心的听,不会和她说,“妈~ 这件事妳已经说过了!” 因为我知道有时他们会一时忘记,不清楚自己有没有和我说过。
 
有时甚至我和我妈会一起去shopping,即时只是她在购物,我在一旁的等待。但是我不会觉得麻烦,反而还乐在其中呢!我很enjoy和妈一起购物的时光,看到她在开心选购,我自然也会开心起来。我知道当我毕业和工作后,陪妈的时间会减少,所以我会捉紧放假时间,多陪陪她。因此每当我大学假期,当妈一有空,我都会和她到处走走。。。。
 

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

The Gift of Life

To Remember Me - I will live forever
Robert N. Test


The day will come when my body will lie upon a white sheet neatly tucked under four corners of a mattress located in a hospital; busily occupied with the living and the dying. At a certain moment a doctor will determine that my brain has ceased to function and that, for all intents and purposes, my life has stopped.

When that happens, do not attempt to instill artificial life into my body by the use of a machine. And don't call this my deathbed. Let it be called the bed of life, and let my body taken from it to help others lead fuller lives.
Give my sight to the man who has never seen a sunrise, a baby's face or love in the eyes of a woman.
Give my heart to a person whose own heart has caused nothing but endless days of pain.
Give my blood to the teenager who has pulled from the wreckage of his car, so that he might live to see his grandchildren play.
Give my kidneys to the one who depends on a machine to exist from week to week.
Take my bones, every muscle, every fiber and nerve in my body and find a way to make a crippled child walk.
Explore every corner of my brain.
Take my cells, if necessary, and let them grow so that, someday a speechless boy will shout at the crack of a bat and a deaf girl will hear the sound of rain against her window.
Burn what is left of me and scatter the ashes to the winds to help the flowers grow.
If you must bury something, let it be my faults, my weakness and all prejudice against my fellow man.
Give my sins to the devil.
Give my soul to God.
If, by chance, you wish to remember me, do it with a kind deed or word to someone who needs you. If you do all I have asked, I will live forever.


This poem I’ve found from the website one year ago. After read through this poem, I felt it is quite conscious and touching, so I just copy and paste it here to share with you.
To Remember Me....... It is impossible to force everyone in this world to remember me unless I am a well-known figure.....hahaha
May be this few words I will say to my lover, parents, my children or grandchild in the future. We all do not know where we will go and what will happen after we have death......but one thing I believe that if our organ and tissues are still functioning after we have died, we can donate and help others who need our help.
Past few years, we can read the newspaper reported that many transplantation surgeries were held in Malaysia, how mighty the organ donor and the number of organ donor is keep increasing....even though there is increasing in small number but such a good news for the patients who need organ transplantation. I still remember that when i decided to sign up as an organ donor, I do not ask permission from my family because I was above 18 years old, I have the right to decide what I should do.
After one week I have signed up, when I went back to my hometown, I told my mum that I have already signed up as an organ donor. At that moment, my mum din show any reaction to me and just told me, "alright... son, this is your choice!"....... Then I was started explain to her the benefits and purpose to be an organ donor, I know my mum wont combat me as an organ donor because she is a open-minded person......hehe
In last time, the old generation sure will reject be an organ donor because they said if u have death, u must 'to stay the whole corpse' (所谓死都要留全尸) if not, this is not good.... After that, when i asked for the reason, they sure cant give me the exactly answer..... they will alway answered, "I say not good ma not good, dont do it!! It's not good for u....." but I alway like to kacau them and asked, "If not good, sure got reason rite? Please tell me the reason why it's not good.... plz, plz, plz...." When they cannot answer my question, they will cabut away..... hehehe Am I so bad? XD
After few minutes past, my mum asked me, "son, at the end if we regret to let u as an organ donor, can we reject it?......."

I said, "Sure, mum, the final decision is in your hand, if after I death, you dun wan my organ to be removed for the purpose of transplantation, you can reject it...."

I do not know what're the reason my mum will asked this type of question, maybe she will regret in the future........hahaha but I have told her that I really wish to be an organ donor , that's why i signed up for it!! I have signed up as an organ donor since May 2008, the Hospital has gave me a light green colour Malaysian Donor card and ask me to keep it. This is the Malaysian Donor card look like:






The following is the Chinese version, which is translated by
苏惠智 (中华民国器官捐赠协会创会秘书长)

如果你要怀念我 To Remember Me
总有一天,
我会躺在医院的白色被單下。
总有一个时候,
医生认定我的脑功能已经停止。
那表示, 我的生命已经结束了。
那时候,请千万不要称呼那是死亡之床,
而因该称为生命之床,
因为我要将我的身体拿出来帮助别人,
延续他们的生命。


让我的眼 - 给一位从来没有见过人世的人;
将我的心 - 给一位拥有一颗使他痛苦的心脏的人;
把我的肾 - 交给那老是去洗肾的人;
用我的筋骨、 神经,让跛脚的孩童行走;
烧去我的残殼,
变成可绽放美丽花朵的肥料。


如果必须埋葬什么,
请埋葬我的过错、软弱及偏见。
将我的罪归还恶魔、将我的靈交给神。
如果你要怀念我,请与我一样;
让我们都永生不死。

Saturday, January 2, 2010

回顾2009



转眼间一年就这样的过去........ 现在回首想一想, 在2009年里经历的实在太多,有得也有失,得的就是学会重新衡量某些人和认识一班朋友,失的是友谊间的那份信任。听起来是不是有些矛盾........... 哈哈


在这一年里,使我最关注,伤心和烙印在我心中的就是当他们在我的面前露出正真的面目时,让我看清他们的自私和无情。我真没想到‘背叛’这两个字再次出现在我的生命里,不明白他们是为了自己的利益还是什么......... 愿意舍去友谊!在你们的眼中,友谊是那么的儿戏吗?!! 俗语说:“在家靠父母,出外靠朋友” 可是我并不觉得,因该说“在家靠父母,出外靠自己”我相信没有永远的朋友也没有永远的敌人。可是当你的朋友背叛你时,敢问你们还能接纳他们吗?你们还会像以往一样的喜皮笑脸互相对待吗? 给我,我只能说:“对不起我办不到”......... 你们可以说我很固执,可是我就不能接受背叛过自己的人,因为心中自然的就会有道隔墙, 再也建立不起我俩对彼此的信任......也许我是一个怕受伤害的人吧! 跌了一次当我再次爬起时, 我不想让自己再跌多一次。我算是白痴的一个吧, 因为这算是我第二次的失败, 第一次大概是四年前..... 同样的因素,只是角色和故事背景不同而已, 仿佛历史重演似的。


在我脑海里一直冒出一万个不明白...... 不明白为什么这些事情会在我身上发生, 不明白我把你当成要好的朋友为什么你会这样对待我, 不明白为什么你会是这样的人, 不明白当初你和我们交朋友是不是要从中获取利益,当我们没有利用价值时就抽身走人, 不明白......不明白........不明白......... 想知道这就是你隐藏已久的真面目吗?!! 不然就是我白痴, 好骗, 是不是双鱼座的人比较好骗呢?!! 经过这一次, 就算再让我结交新朋友我也会对他们有些保留。 不会再像以前一样傻头傻脑的一一把心交出来, 把你们当成要好的朋友。 也许我需要一些时间去整理一下我自己,反省一下到底是我自己本身的问题还是他人的问题,导致这些‘事情’发生。


现在回想,我因该感谢你们的所做所为,让我先领悟到现实社会人与人之间的那种‘关系’和残酷。 只是没想到这些残酷无情发生在我们之间,现在只能说我们的友谊只有在回忆里..........


在人生里,我认为所谓要好的朋友-知己,是贵精不贵多。3年大学生活,我要感谢老天爷让我遇到了几位知己, 他/她们就是我的housemates: Angu Ping,KahYe3, Billy bong 和一位‘傻大姐’Aunty Shirley。有时我们会偶尔意见不和,顶顶嘴,骂骂架........ 但我们的感情依然会很好,这是让我觉得最真实的。希望我们的友谊能像这样的一直维持下去......... ^^哈哈

KahYe3, Angu Ping and me


Aunty Shirley


新的一年新的开始, 先许个愿........啊~~在新的一年里, 小人远离我, 财神接近我!! 哇哈哈哈
希望事事顺利, 父母安康...... 那就足够了!

Finally












Finally…… finally….. finally…..

Erm…… How to start a first word? Already signed up a blog, must write something inside!! cannot leave it blank!!!

Finally I have started my first personal blog and I have gave my ‘first time’ to blogspot …… hahaha
First at all, I want to do the cliché thing which is to introduce myself. My name is Jason, 23 years old, currently study at UTAR Kampar taking Business Administration (Hons) course.

I'm still remember one month ago, my tutor has asked us to sign up a blog, when she asking me to show her my blog, I alway giving excuses and lastly I was signed up. I choose to sign up a blog in year 2010, hmmm….. may be I felt that this is a new starting point for me. We have passed one decade, now it's the time for me to explore and learn more.

The title of the blog is ‘L!FE Diary’….. The main purpose to sign up this blog not just for me to share what’s happening in my life but also is a place for me to express my feeling and opinion. ^^ May be one day u will be the one of the character in my blog also….. haha

Lastly, after reading my blog, plz feel free to drop a comment……^^
Happie New Year 2010 for U n Me!!


Happie New Year!!!